How To Keep The Spark Alive In a Relationship

UpJourney’s Article Written by The Editors, How to Keep the Spark Alive in a Relationship (60+ Exciting Ways) features contributions from Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating (Visit UpJourney to view the full article)

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

A relationship can start in a whirlwind of excitement and euphoria but suddenly fade without a single spark left behind. 

It can be challenging to always feel the spark between you and your partner, especially if you have been together a long time and have yet to place effort into rekindling that spark. It is a cohesive effort from both partners to bring back or maintain that fiery connection you felt and drew you together initially. 

Here are my three tips to rekindle that spark with your partner:

• Discuss what drew you together initially

• Prioritize communication

• Do something playful

Talk about what drew you together initially over a romantic dinner date

When wanting to reignite that spark, it’s essential to slow down and bring back focus to romance. Share one and others’ company over a romantic dinner date curated to highlight shared feelings of love and connection you built your relationship on.

Prioritize communication through a shared activity 

Getting that spark back in a relationship takes consistent effort; it does not happen “eventually.” It mandates direct communication between partners. 

Spend quality time with your partner doing something it does not need to be extravagant or some unwanted task, do an activity together, kayak or go hiking, or do something as simple as a walk around the block. Create an environment to communicate openly by sharing a joint activity.

Do something playful to nurture your inner child

Be carefree and have a relaxed headspace where you’re not thinking so hard. Do something playful or goofy, like a theme or amusement park, trampoline park, paint, or ceramic classes. 

Nurture your inner child together! If you want things to be exciting again in your relationship, then get excited about something together.

How the Linx Methodology Works... From an Insider

Amy Andersen’s methodology is old-fashioned and direct, and it has been shown to help clients even as they continue to date beyond Linx. To understand exactly how Amy’s methodology impacts clients, Linx Dating reached out to a previous client who has become successful in her approach to dating and is now in a happy exclusive relationship post-Linx.

Demographics:

The previous Client is a 32-year-old active female and established young professional with a 10-year-old daughter. Her partner is a 27-year-old active male and an established young professional.

What stuck out to you most about Amy’s methodology for having success when dating?

I appreciate Amy’s way of assessing fundamental compatibility levels for her clients. She created a system and space that allows her clients to open up and be honest with her (and themselves) about their ideal life partner.

What tip or trick was the most useful to implement in your approach to dating?

1. Make self-care a priority, for it’s the foundation of a healthy relationship.

2. Know your worth and don’t lower your standards when evaluating potential red flags.

3. Don’t be scared to ask hard questions playfully. The right person will be receptive and value you and your time more.

4. Last, never assume; communicate to the point of clarity and mutual understanding.

Were your dates/partner receptive to your new dating approach?

The right man was, and I saved a lot of time and potential heartache in the initial talking stages of dating.

How has your dating life and experience with dating changed since working with Amy?

My mindset has shifted in how I approach my ideal partner. I’ve gone from “do they like me,” to “do I like them and are they a good fit for the woman I am and want to be.”

I am evaluating deal breakers, green and red flags, and learning to communicate upfront while still allowing plenty of space for romance.

Amy’s methodology set a bar that had me off the dating market and exclusive by the 4th date with a man that is communicative, successful, and romantic, ultimately proving that great men do exist in today’s dating landscape and you just have to be willing to stay true to your standards.