A Heartwarming Success Story: Love After Life’s Twists and Turns

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

At Linx Dating, we believe that love knows no age limits. One of our most recent success stories—an inspiring couple in their 50s+, both with past divorces—tied the knot over Thanksgiving weekend after being introduced through our exclusive, referral-based matchmaking service. Their story is a powerful reminder that second chances at love can be both transformative and deeply fulfilling.

The Power of Second Chances After Divorce

For many, particularly those who have experienced divorce, the prospect of dating again can feel daunting. The emotional complexities of navigating a new relationship—especially with children involved—can make starting over seem overwhelming. However, this couple’s journey is proof that love after divorce is not only possible, but often richer and more meaningful.

Research from Stanford University highlights the emotional maturity that many individuals gain after experiencing divorce. Their findings suggest that people who remarry later in life tend to have a more realistic and grounded approach to relationships. With personal growth and greater clarity on what truly matters, these individuals often experience higher satisfaction in their second marriages (Stanford Center on Longevity, 2016).

This couple’s relationship blossomed because they chose to embrace the complexities of their pasts and approach dating with an open heart. Both had navigated the challenges of divorce and the intricate dynamics of co-parenting—proving that love is resilient, even when life presents its most difficult turns.

Managing the Complexities of High-Profile Divorces

For many professionals in Silicon Valley, the challenges of dating post-divorce extend beyond emotional complexities. High-profile divorces often come with a sense of public scrutiny, leading to feelings of isolation. This can be especially difficult for individuals who are accustomed to a busy, high-stakes career and a social circle that may not fully understand their unique experience.

A Stanford Graduate School of Business study on high-profile divorcees found that the pressure of public visibility can lead to heightened emotional stress and loneliness. Many people in these positions report feeling disconnected from others, even as they navigate dating in the public eye (Stanford, 2021). For those in such situations, the idea of returning to dating apps is unappealing. These platforms often lack the privacy, personalization, and selectivity that professionals need.

That’s where a trusted matchmaker, like Linx Dating, offers immense value. We provide a level of discretion and care that allows clients to explore meaningful relationships without the pressure of public attention or the endless, impersonal swiping of dating apps.

Why the Right Matchmaker Makes All the Difference

Unlike traditional dating services, Linx Dating takes a bespoke approach to matchmaking. Our service goes beyond surface-level compatibility, focusing on a holistic view of each client’s life, values, and relationship goals. For those navigating post-divorce dating—particularly with children—finding a partner who understands the full scope of their responsibilities and aspirations is critical.

Dr. Thomas Bradbury, a leading Stanford relationship expert, emphasizes that the foundation of long-lasting relationships—especially after major life changes like divorce—lies in emotional intimacy, shared values, and mutual respect. His research suggests that couples who face challenges together, such as co-parenting or dating later in life, develop deeper emotional bonds and greater resilience in the face of adversity (Bradbury & Karney, 2004).

This is why working with a matchmaker who understands the nuances of your life and needs is so important. At Linx Dating, we help our clients navigate the complexities of modern relationships, fostering authentic connections that prioritize emotional compatibility and long-term happiness.

A New Beginning Awaits

Whether you’ve experienced a divorce, are navigating co-parenting, or simply haven’t found the right person yet, it’s never too late to begin a new chapter. For high-profile professionals—especially those in Silicon Valley—a trusted matchmaker can offer the privacy, care, and expertise needed to find genuine, lasting love.

Stanford research also supports that individuals who engage in professional matchmaking services are more likely to form successful, long-term relationships. Personalized matchmaking that takes into account your values, lifestyle, and relationship goals increases the likelihood of lasting happiness (Stanford Center on Longevity, 2022).

If you're a successful professional ready to find love again, no matter your past experiences, I’d be honored to help you take that next step. True connection can happen at any stage, and your story is still unfolding. Let 2025 be the year you find the love you’ve been waiting for.

Let’s Make It Happen

Reach out today, and together, let’s begin the next chapter of your love story.

References:

• Stanford Center on Longevity. (2016). The Psychology of Remarriage: Why Second Marriages Can Be Stronger. Stanford University.

• Stanford Graduate School of Business. (2021). Divorce and Public Life: The Struggles of High-Profile Professionals. Stanford University.

• Bradbury, T. N., & Karney, B. R. (2004). Intimate Relationships and the Role of Conflict in Marital Satisfaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 86(4), 671-684.

• Stanford Center on Longevity. (2022). Relationship Satisfaction and the Role of Professional Matchmaking Services. Stanford University.

The One Thing Single Women in San Francisco Are Sick of: Men Who Play Games

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Let’s be real: single women in San Francisco are over the “game playing” act. After a great first date where there was obvious chemistry, it often takes a turn into confusing territory. Men seem to think they're supposed to act aloof, play hard to get, or even strategically wait a certain amount of time before calling back. And then—crickets.

Newsflash: if you’re into someone, say it. Don’t act like you’re too cool for school or give mixed signals just to “keep her guessing.” It’s childish. And the games? They're a huge turn-off. Women are not here to play cat-and-mouse. They want real, straightforward communication. If you don’t feel a spark, move on. Don’t string anyone along while you try to decide if she’s "worthy" of your time.

Let’s be honest—men are just as afraid of rejection as women, but here’s the thing: if you never take a chance, you’re guaranteed to miss out. So, here’s some advice: jump in, be vulnerable, and take ownership of your feelings. Playing it cool might work in the movies, but in real life? It just leaves everyone frustrated.

So, guys: stop overthinking it. If you like her, act like it. Otherwise, save both your time and hers and move on. Playing games doesn’t make you more attractive—it just makes you look like you’re hiding something.

Mankeeping: Are Women Doing More Than Their Fair Share of Emotional Labor?

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In many relationships, women often find themselves stepping into the role of emotional caretaker. This phenomenon, sometimes referred to as "mankeeping," involves women taking on the mental and emotional load of supporting their male partners—especially during times of crisis, uncertainty, or personal struggle. While emotional caretaking can strengthen the bond between partners, it can also carry a heavy burden, leaving women overwhelmed as they juggle their own responsibilities alongside managing their partner’s emotional and practical needs.

The Emotional Burden of Mankeeping

Research suggests that men often have fewer close friendships and tend to rely heavily on their romantic partners for emotional support. In fact, studies have shown that a significant number of men report having no close friends at all. This lack of external support means that women frequently bear the responsibility of managing their partner's emotional state, reassuring them during difficult times, and even taking care of practical matters like organizing social events or handling family obligations.

This dynamic creates a scenario where women are not only carrying their own emotional load but are also responsible for managing their partner's emotional health. While this may feel necessary in the moment and can contribute to a sense of closeness, it can also lead to emotional burnout, particularly if the caretaking is not reciprocated.

Why Women End Up in the Caretaking Role

The tendency for women to take on this emotional labor isn't just about love or partnership—it’s a societal and cultural issue. From a young age, women are often socialized to be caregivers, nurturing figures who are expected to maintain harmony, soothe tensions, and put the emotional needs of others before their own. Men, on the other hand, are typically encouraged to be stoic, self-reliant, and avoid expressing vulnerability. These traditional gender roles create an imbalance in emotional caregiving within relationships, with women often shouldering more of the burden.

While many women willingly embrace the role of emotional caretaker, this imbalance can be exhausting, especially when the emotional needs of the man are not met in return. As a result, women may start to feel overwhelmed, neglected, or even resentful. This leads to the question: How can emotional caretaking be more balanced?

The Case for Mutual Emotional Support

Emotional labor, when unbalanced, can cause resentment and burnout. The key to a healthy relationship is mutual support and care. Both partners should feel that their emotional needs are being met in equal measure, and that their vulnerability is being respected. A relationship should be a two-way street, where both partners provide emotional support to each other—whether it's offering a listening ear, providing reassurance, or managing shared responsibilities.

If one partner consistently takes on the role of emotional caretaker, it can lead to an unhealthy dynamic where one person's emotional well-being is sacrificed for the other. This imbalance can make it difficult for women to feel truly supported when they themselves need emotional care.

Key Takeaways:

1. Recognize the Signs of Emotional Labor: If you’re feeling emotionally drained from constantly managing your partner’s needs, it’s time to assess the balance in your relationship. Are you carrying the emotional load on your own? Are you receiving the same level of care and support in return?

2. Encourage Open Conversations About Emotional Needs: Men may not always express their emotional needs in the same way women do. It’s important to have open conversations about how both partners can support each other emotionally. If your partner tends to keep their feelings to themselves, gently encourage them to open up and share what they’re going through.

3. Create a Supportive Community Outside of the Relationship: It’s vital for both partners to have support systems outside the relationship—friends, family, or professionals—to help carry some of the emotional burden. Encourage your partner to nurture friendships and seek support outside of the relationship.

4. Practice Mutual Emotional Care: A healthy relationship requires mutual emotional care. Whether it’s comforting each other after a tough day or sharing your feelings in an open, vulnerable way, emotional support should be balanced. Both partners should feel like they can lean on each other.

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Set Boundaries: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to set emotional boundaries. It’s okay to say no when your own emotional needs aren’t being met. Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Homework for the Reader:

1. Self-Reflect: Take some time to reflect on your relationship dynamic. Are you playing the role of the emotional caretaker? If so, how does this impact your own emotional health and well-being?

2. Have a Conversation: Talk to your partner about emotional support. Ask them how they are feeling emotionally and whether they feel supported by you. Share how you feel as well—open and honest communication is key.

3. Identify Your Support System: Identify at least one or two people (outside your partner) who can help support you emotionally. Having a broader support network can alleviate some of the pressure that comes from trying to be everything to your partner.

4. Create a Balance Plan: Think about ways you can create a more balanced dynamic. Perhaps you can find ways to share more of the emotional load or encourage your partner to seek external support. Balance is key to a healthy relationship.

Why Silicon Valley Men Are Dreading First Dates: The 'Emotional Data Dump' Phenomenon

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

It’s no secret that dating in Silicon Valley is... unique. But there's one issue that keeps coming up among single men here—and it's a dealbreaker. Women. Please. Stop the emotional data dump.

Far too many women on a first date feel the need to unload their entire emotional baggage, and it’s getting old fast. The “drama dump” can include everything from endlessly talking about ex-boyfriends and breakups to bragging about how many guys are currently in the rotation. Or worse—rambling on about how “amazing” they are or rich they are, while simultaneously complaining about their jobs, friends, family, or just life in general. It’s exhausting.

Let’s be honest: men don’t want to hear about your dramatic past, the laundry list of your crappy divorce, or how many affluent men are after you. Sure, we get that women crave connection, but when the first date feels like a therapy session or an audition for a drama series, it’s a huge turn-off. It’s way too much, too soon.

Here’s the thing—that’s what your girlfriends are for. That’s what your “self-care” days with wine and Netflix are for. Men (especially in Silicon Valley) don’t have the patience for a soul-baring marathon right out of the gate. Heck, most husbands don’t even want to hear this stuff after years of marriage (trust me having been married for almost 17 years)—what makes you think a guy just meeting you is interested?

If you want to build a connection, focus on fun, engaging conversations, not unloading years of baggage. If he’s into you, there will be plenty of time later for the heart-to-heart. But on a first date? No one’s looking for a drama queen. Just saying. 

Friendsgiving

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

If you don’t already have plans for the Thanksgiving holiday, consider reaching out to your friends, posting on your social media, or asking your colleagues, as you might not be alone in wanting to share the day.  This is a wonderful opportunity to connect with those who may need it most, so let’s make sure everyone has a place to feel welcome and appreciated this Thanksgiving.

As I write this, I’m reminded of some people in my life who would truly appreciate an invitation.  One close friend is navigating the challenges of a divorce and will be spending her first Thanksgiving away from her family, and I know she could use some emotional support… and a slice of warm apple pie à la mode wouldn’t hurt either! 

If you’re not a natural or relaxed cook, do not fear!  Although I love eating, I am one of those people who admittedly stresses out with multiple guests hovering around my kitchen if I’m cooking.  Luckily for our family, we have figured out an excellent formula that makes me still feel like the hostess with the mostest.  Plenty of restaurants and grocers (like Whole Foods) offer complete or a la carte solutions for Thanksgiving dinner.  Since I live in Silicon Valley, I call upon a local grocer, Robert’s Market and pre-order tons of items like sweet potatoes, creamed spinach, ham, turkey, mashed potatoes…ok so don’t judge, I order most everything LOL. And guess, what? No stress, everyone loves it and eats it. Plus, I can focus on my guests and not burning the stuffing. ;-) 

You can also encourage guests to bring a dish to share if they wish, or suggest they contribute wine or dessert to the celebration. To make things even more interesting, invite your friends to bring along a single friend of the opposite sex. This approach can help create a diverse and engaging table filled with fascinating guests from all backgrounds. Not only is this idea fun, but it can also create a more intimate and fulfilling holiday experience than you might expect. 

Enlist the help of a friend to help you decorate the table the day before your party. Even the simplest autumn decor can work wonders! Think about using votive candles, collecting fall leaves or branches from a hike, or scattering a few mini pumpkins from your local Trader Joe's, and curating the perfect Spotify playlist to set the mood. In fact, we just put one together for your upcoming Friendsgiving… Enjoy….our gift to you! Link to Thanksgiving Spotify Playlist!