20 Years of Linx

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

As we commemorate our 20th successful year in business at Linx Dating. This is a moment to reflect on the incredible journey that has established us as the pre-eminent matchmaker in our space. Over the past two decades, we have had the pleasure and privilege of bringing countless couples together, helping them find meaningful and lasting connections. Our commitment to personalized matchmaking and our deep understanding of human relationships have been the cornerstones of our success.

Linx Dating has always prided itself on blending the art of intuitive matchmaking with the more analytical science of behavioral compatibility. Our meticulous approach involves understanding the unique needs, desires, and values of each individual. Through our bespoke service, we have created an environment where relationships can flourish, and our success stories are a testament to this dedication. From the first consultation “meet and greet”, to the moment our clients find their perfect match, we are with them every step of the way, offering support, guidance, and white glove service. 

As Founder and CEO, I reflect with immense pride on the very early days of having started my business. It all began by reaching out to a few contacts whom I knew aligned with the core Linx brand – dynamic, successful, highly educated, motivated, Bay Area based, and marriage-minded. A matchmaker has nothing to go on without a deep and powerful network. 

These keystone contacts opened up their respective rolodexes by offering me powerful connections to their like-minded single colleagues and friends. Slowly, I began taking all of these new contacts onboard, for free, so I could build a network, try to validate what I was attempting to do (play matchmaker to Silicon Valley’s elite), and build brand awareness and maintain a strong reputation. That was no small feat…those first five years set the entire blueprint for Linx Dating’s DNA. Eventually, prospects offered to compensate me for introductions, so as to get more attention and faster results, and the real business was born.

In the early days, the business was primarily an “offline” business, and all prospects ended up in my files, paying for memberships to be matched to each other. Remarkably, I was working off of index note cards and paper files (truly!) until my advisors finally insisted that I invest in building a database, which I did! 😊 

When the business was about 10 years old, I took a serious look at our trajectory. Though we had been responsible for hundreds of exclusive relationships and dozens of engagements and marriages, we realized we could be better in two key ways and have worked to capitalize accordingly:

1. BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF OUR CLIENTS

The market was telling me that there were really two basic types of clients… one group was very “active,” looking for guaranteed numbers of matches over a set time period and willing to pay accordingly. The other group was more “passive,” not looking to pay for matchmaking services, but willing to accept no guarantees and instead be ready and willing to be matched if they were a fit to be matched to one of my active clients.  

Furthermore, within the realm of active clients, the VIP Membership category was born. For 5-10 of these members per year, Linx began to take on a role similar to a corporate executive recruiter, searching outside its own database to recruit prospects. In fact, now, our primary focus is representing a small elite group of ultra-successful individuals who desire a completely heightened approach to changing the course of their personal lives.

2. BETTER USE OF TECHNOLOGY

Though Linx had been tapping its vast, highly coveted network to search for matches within a database, Linx has recently led the matchmaking industry’s charge into technology via the AI capabilities it has built into the matchmaking process, allowing quick and efficient access to the right prospects buried in its robust database and also to better recruit outside the existing network for new prospects.  

As an example of the latter, Linx has taken a very intentional, unique, and organic approach to social media and use of its website “real estate” by filming fun skits to provide tactical dating tips and approaches for our followers and featuring our VIP member profiles in various pages, spotlights and campaigns to highlight who they are and what they seek in a perfect match.

As a result of these growth initiatives, my business has grown from a small shop out of Silicon Valley to a global brand representing some of the world’s most desirable single men and women, and that has been featured in some of the world’s top media print, video, and audio outlets. I still do not advertise, nor have I relied on that as a way to grow my brand.  

With all of that said, in an industry that has seen rapid changes, Linx has remained steadfast in its mission to create authentic and meaningful connections. While apps and algorithms may facilitate meetings and drive growth, we believe that the human touch is irreplaceable when it comes to true matchmaking. 

Ask Amy: What Should I Do Before Meeting His Kids?

Question:

(Woman, 35, San Diego) [exclusively dating]

Hi Amy, I am excited to build a future with my current boyfriend, but I’m not sure how I should handle his kids. He was married before, has 2 kids from that marriage, and I’m very nervous about meeting them and all the responsibilities that come with that. I want this to go well, but I’m not sure how to prepare. Any ideas? 

Andersen Advice:

Firstly, it’s always smart to be intentional about your relationship with the kids. But, before you meet the kids, I suggest a sit down with your boyfriend to talk through your role in his kids’ lives and how involved you plan to be in their upbringing. Is he expecting you to coparent? Are you up for that? I would seriously consider your personal boundaries and needs before any next steps, including meeting the kids.

Once you and your partner are on the same page about your role with the kids, try to learn as much as you can about them in advance. Ask questions about their hobbies, personalities, and anything that’s off limits or problematic to discuss. A little detective work can go a long way when you’re wondering how to start the conversation with them. 

Before meeting the kids, I suggest letting go of expectations and preparing for different scenarios. We all hope the kids will be as excited to meet you as you are to meet them, but they may be indifferent or even hostile. Remember, the negative reaction has more to do with their emotional state than anything you did. Focus on being kind, patient, and understanding. 

When it comes to pace, let the kids decide the speed and level of interaction. Even though a hug might feel relaxed and natural for you, it could feel forced from the child’s point of view. Relationships aren’t created overnight; they are built over time. It may take time for hugs, handshakes and affection to feel natural, so take your time to intentionally build the relationship.

And, finally, a note about boundaries. As you grow more involved in the children’s lives, boundaries can feel a little blurry, but it's important not to overstep. Steer clear of disciplining the kids or getting involved in any disagreements between them and their parents; it will only make things more complicated. 

Wishing you all the best.

Affectionately,

Amy

The Power of a Strong Network

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating


“Your network is your net worth.” – Porter Gale, author and former VP of Marketing at Virgin America

In the professional world, we often talk about the importance of building a strong network for career growth, new opportunities, and personal development. But, sometimes, the connections we make can lead to something even more extraordinary—finding a life partner.

I recently witnessed a beautiful example of this when two incredible individuals, each with their own goals and dreams, crossed paths through my network.

Several years ago, my friend and fellow matchmaker, Shannon Lundgren of Shannon’s Circle reached out to me, wondering if I had any potential matches for her client Douglas and went on to share his ideal match criteria with me.  

Remarkably, a name popped into my head - Peggy - someone whom I had screened as a prospect many years before, who had really made a lasting impression on me.  I remember sitting on the couch with her, feeling her grace, huge heart, gentle spirit and kindness.  I didn’t even need to do a database search because I knew instantly that she would be the one.

Sure enough, I contacted her, found out she was still single, and we proceeded to make the introduction.

What started as a simple connection, for this extraordinary couple, quickly blossomed into something deeper, and today, they stand side by side as partners in life, having tied the

knot here in the Bay Area this last weekend.

This story is a powerful reminder that our networks are more than just career tools; they are communities of people who can bring unexpected joy and fulfillment into our lives.

I will never forget when Peggy brought me a dancing stuffed birthday bear toy for my newborn baby boy all those years ago, soon after I had given birth. It was a token of her appreciation and cemented a lasting, positive impression.

As the great Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

So, to everyone out there building connections, remember—your network might just help you find more than a new job or opportunity. It might help you find the person who will walk beside you on life’s journey. 💍❤️

The Power of Gratitude Practices in Romantic Relationships

By Dani Geary for Linx Dating

Amidst the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy to overlook the small moments that make our romantic relationships special. One potent and often underestimated tool, for fostering connection and deepening intimacy in a relationship, is gratitude. The practice of expressing appreciation and thankfulness can have an incredible impact on relationships, by nurturing love and understanding.

The Impact of Gratitude on Romantic Relationships

Gratitude is more than just a polite gesture… It is a transformative force that can reshape the dynamics of a romantic relationship. When partners express and receive gratitude, it creates a positive cycle that reinforces mutual appreciation and strengthens the emotional bond. Here are some more specific key benefits of incorporating gratitude into your romantic relationship:

  1. Better Communication

  2. Increased Relationship Satisfaction

  3. Stress Reduction

  4. Building Resilience

How to Introduce Gratitude into Your Romantic Relationship

Now that we understand the impact of gratitude, let's dive into some easy ways to incorporate it into your romantic relationship:

1. Daily Gratitude Rituals

Take a few minutes each day or even just once a week to share something for which you're grateful. This can be a specific act your partner did, a quality you appreciate, or a shared moment. Establishing this ritual helps create a habit.

2. Gratitude Journaling

Encourage each other to keep a gratitude journal. Set aside time weekly to write down things you are grateful for in your partner and your relationship. You can share your journal entries with each other to deepen the connection.

3. Surprise Thank You Notes   

Surprise your partner with handwritten thank-you notes expressing appreciation for something they've done. It could be a simple gesture, a supportive action, or a characteristic you adore. These unexpected notes can create moments of joy and genuine connection.

2 Simple Gratitude Exercises for Couples

1. The Appreciation Game

Set aside time for a dedicated "appreciation session." Each partner takes turns expressing three things they appreciate about the other.

2. Gratitude Jar

Keep a shared gratitude jar in your living space. Whenever you feel grateful for something your partner has done, write it on a small piece of paper and place it in the jar. Take turns reading the notes during moments of connection.

By incorporating some of these simple yet impactful gratitude practices into your routine, you can create a foundation of appreciation, understanding, and connection.

Ask Amy: How Do I Overcome Romantic Rejection

Question:

(Man, 32, San Francisco) [Single- actively dating]

Hi Amy- Putting myself out there was easy. Keeping myself out there is turning out to be harder. I recently went out with a lovely woman and, after the third date, she decided we weren’t a match. I thought everything was going well, so I’m confused to say the least. What do you think? Do I ask her what happened or should I just move on? 

Andersen Advice:

Oh yes, dating can definitely feel like a roller coaster. You aren’t alone when it comes to the highs and lows. The excitement of new love can feel like walking on clouds, but when you get rejected or ghosted, it can trigger a lot of uncomfortable feelings that lead to questions like “Am I good enough?” or “What is the point of dating anyway?” Depending on the rejection, the feelings can linger and lead to heavy blues. Let’s take a closer look at rejection and figure out how to manage it better.

To explain rejection fully, you need to understand that there is a chemical reaction happening in the background that directly impacts your mood and perspective. When we hear someone say they aren’t interested, the body releases stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline—the same hormones that cause the "fight or flight" response. Your body might start sweating or your heart might start beating fast. This stress response is how the body copes with a perceived threat. In this case, rejection is a threat to our self-esteem. 

When the stress hormones fade away, you can count on the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain that regulates emotions and makes decisions, to get activated. The level of emotional response varies depending on your personality, but it’s highly likely that you’ll experience sadness, anger, or frustration. Additionally, the mesolimbic system, or the brain's reward system, which is responsible for pleasure and motivation, is also impacted by rejection and can leave you feeling tired and unmotivated.

I understand how disheartening it can be to get turned down in the dating game. It can feel like you're not good enough, that there's something wrong with you, or that love just isn't in the cards for you. When I have clients going through rejection, I try to help them reframe. 

Approach rejection as an exchange of information, not a reflection of your worth. When someone turns you down, it’s not that you weren’t good enough, it’s that you two were not the right fit. As much as the message may sting in the moment, it is a gift that will allow you to move on with your life faster and find a better fit for you. 

Getting the love you want is a journey, and it takes time. Instead of dwelling on the rejection, get excited about what’s in store. Focus on the relationship you want and behave the way you’d want to be treated. When you are firm on your standards and clear on what’s important to you, you are more likely to attract people who share your values.

Most importantly, don't give up on love! It's easy to feel discouraged after getting turned down, but remember that every "no" brings you one step closer to a "yes". Keep putting yourself out there, keep meeting new people, and stay true to your standards. Love is out there for you.

Affectionately yours,

Amy