The Law of Attraction: Defining Your Desire and Setting Intentions

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

The Law of Attraction, often discussed in metaphysical circles, operates on the premise that we can attract the circumstances, people, and opportunities we desire through focused thought, intention, and alignment with universal energy. However, this process requires more than passive wishing; it demands clarity, intentionality, and a willingness to take action.

1. The Precision of Desire: Asking for What You Want

To begin using the Law of Attraction effectively, it’s crucial to first understand exactly what you desire. The universe responds to specificity. The more you can clearly define your desires, the more accurately the universe can align with them. This is not simply about vague wishes but about honing your vision with precision.

Think about what your ideal reality looks like. To assist you in this, you might consider visualizing your desired outcome as vividly as possible:

• What does your daily life look like when you have what you want?

• Who are the people surrounding you?

• How do you feel once your desires have materialized?

The clearer you are about what you want, the more tangible your vision will become. For example:

• “I want to feel a deep sense of peace and unconditional love in my relationship.”

• “I seek to feel respected and valued for my professional contributions.”

• “I want to build a home that serves as both a sanctuary and a gathering place for loved ones.”

The specificity of your request allows the universe to understand your energy and your intentions, providing it with a clearer pathway to respond to your needs.

2. Cultivating Belief: Expectation as a Driver of Action

Once you've articulated your desires, belief becomes the most crucial step. The Law of Attraction is not a mere wishful thinking exercise; it requires the conviction that what you desire is not only possible, but inevitable. Without belief, there is no momentum, and without momentum, the energy of attraction cannot fully manifest.

Maintaining positive belief is essential. You must genuinely expect that your desires will manifest, even if the path to realization doesn’t unfold as anticipated. The universe operates on its own timeline and logic. Trusting that the unfolding of events will align with your goals, even if the process diverges from your initial expectations, is fundamental to harnessing this universal force.

3. Aligning Action with Intention

The Law of Attraction is not a passive process but an active one. While visualization and belief are necessary components, they must be coupled with tangible action. To attract your desires, you must move toward them. This means aligning your actions, thoughts, and energy with your goals.

If you are seeking a fulfilling relationship, for example, you can begin by:

• Identifying and affirming the qualities you seek in a partner.

• Opening yourself to new opportunities and relationships, even if they don’t look exactly as you expected.

• Engaging with others in ways that reflect the love and openness you wish to receive.

When your actions align with your desires, the Law of Attraction finds the path to fulfill them.

The Biggest Turn-On for Single Women in San Francisco? A Man Who Actually Knows How to Be a Gentleman

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Let’s be honest: in the dating world today, a lot of men are really dropping the ball. But what actually gets a single woman’s heart racing? A man who acts like a gentleman. Yes, that’s right—a guy who’s thoughtful, attentive, and genuinely makes her feel like she’s the only woman in the room.

Here’s the kicker: it's not just about holding the door open or paying for dinner. It’s about showing real interest—not just checking your phone every five minutes or scanning the room for your next option. Women want a man who is present, who looks them in the eye and makes them feel seen and heard. It's about the intentionality of his actions: is he saying what he means? Does he end the night with a clear, confident declaration that he wants to see her again? And not just as a throwaway comment—actually following through.

Oh, and here’s another shocker: men who actually call when they say they will. Sounds simple, right? But so many men miss the mark here, either ghosting or playing the "wait three days" game. Newsflash: if you're genuinely interested, stop acting like you’re some prize to be won and just show it. Be direct, be sincere.

Too many men in San Francisco have bought into the idea that being aloof or playing hard to get is the way to go, but all it really does is leave women frustrated. In an era of mind games and endless options, a man who just treats her well is a breath of fresh air.

So, if you want to get a woman’s attention and keep it, stop trying to be mysterious and start being real. Because being a gentleman? That’s not outdated—it’s actually the ultimate power move.

Upcoming LA Fire Fundraiser in Silicon Valley

Join us for an exceptional evening of philanthropy, wine, food, and amazing people at the 5 Star Rosewood Sand Hill - Luxury Hotel in Menlo Park. 

In the wake of the devastating fires that have swept through Los Angeles, our hearts go out to those affected. Now, more than ever, our community comes together—not just in support, but in action.

 We are honored to host an exclusive, invitation-only gathering bringing together the most influential minds of Silicon Valley for an evening of philanthropy, fine wine, and curated experiences. This intimate affair will offer a rare opportunity to connect with key leaders and changemakers—all united for a cause greater than ourselves.

The evening will feature a special guest who has personally experienced the devastation, offering a profound and moving perspective on the crisis. With live performances, a celebrated DJ, and an atmosphere of refined elegance, this will be a night to remember.

 100% of net proceeds will benefit the following 501(c)(3) organizations: California Community Foundation and Pasadena Humane Society, ensuring direct relief to those in urgent need.

This event is produced by Amy Andersen (CEO of Linx Dating), Neda Razavi (CEO of iSono Health) Lisa Ketih (Golden Gate Sotheby's International Realty), and AJ Gandhi (Board Member of Harvard Business School Association of Northern California)

Date: Wednesday, February 26, 2025
Time: 5:30–8:30 p.m.
Location: Rosewood Sand Hill Hotel (Main Ballroom)
2825 Sand Hill Rd, Menlo Park, CA 94025
Dress Code: Cocktail Attire Required

Registration closes on Wednesday, February 26, at 12 p.m. PT (or when sold out).

Tickets (includes program, beverages, and appetizers):
https://hbsanc.org/events/170581

• Early Bird (available until Feb 15): $175

• General Admission: $200

• At the Door: $250

All tickets are non-refundable and non-transferable.

Want a healthy relationship? It starts with you.

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Want a healthy relationship? It starts with you.

Your Physical Health:
You can’t show up fully for someone else if you’re not taking care of yourself. Eat nourishing foods, move your body daily, and prioritize sleep. Your physical health is the foundation for everything else—when you feel good in your body, everything else falls into place.

Your Mental Health:
Stress and unresolved emotional issues will affect all areas of your life, including your relationships. Learn to manage your stress, get outside and connect with nature, and don’t be afraid to see a therapist if there are emotional wounds you’re still carrying. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health.

Your Finances:
A healthy relationship with money is key to a stable life—and a stable relationship. Get your finances in order by building up savings, paying down any debt, and learning about investing. Feeling secure about your finances will give you peace of mind and help you be a more confident and grounded partner.

Your Job:
No one wants to be around someone who’s constantly complaining about work. If you’re unhappy in your job, start exploring other opportunities. You deserve to be doing work that excites and fulfills you, and being stuck in a job you hate will only drain your energy and affect your overall happiness.

The Power of Distance: Rethinking Long-Distance Relationships

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In a world where relationships often begin online or across borders, many wonder: can love thrive when separated by miles? Whether you’ve met someone abroad or connected with a partner from a different city, distance often raises the question of how sustainable love is when the two of you aren’t physically together. Surprisingly, the evidence suggests that long-distance relationships (LDRs) may offer unique advantages and, in some cases, even lead to stronger emotional bonds than traditional, geographically-close partnerships.

Does Distance Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

The answer: Yes, according to research.

A 2018 study from Cornell University, led by Dr. Jeffrey Hancock, an expert in communication, found that couples in long-distance relationships often experience higher levels of intimacy and emotional closeness than those who live near one another. The key to this phenomenon is the way that distance forces partners to communicate more intentionally. LDR couples often engage in deeper, more reflective conversations because they don't have the luxury of spontaneous face-to-face interactions.

Moreover, a 2020 study published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships corroborated these findings. It showed that long-distance couples, while not always in constant contact, often report feeling more connected due to the quality of their interactions. These couples tend to engage in more self-disclosure and emotional conversations—both key indicators of relationship satisfaction and intimacy.

But Doesn’t Distance Create Communication Barriers?

At first glance, it seems intuitive that being physically separated could hinder communication. Ironically, however, the opposite is true. Research from The University of Pennsylvania suggests that couples in LDRs often develop more effective communication strategies. In a study published in Personal Relationships (2021), Dr. Christopher H. Smith and his team found that the quality of communication among long-distance partners often surpasses that of couples who live together. Because communication is typically premeditated and spaced out, these couples tend to engage in less impulsive and more meaningful exchanges, which can mitigate misunderstandings and emotional friction.

Additionally, the time between interactions can allow for more thoughtful responses. In their study, Smith and colleagues discovered that LDR couples reported fewer negative emotional responses compared to couples who saw each other frequently. This gap between emotional stimuli and reaction provides a “buffer,” enabling couples to approach challenges with more clarity and less knee-jerk emotion.

How Much Does the Distance Really Matter?

Remarkably, the distance itself doesn’t appear to have a significant negative effect on long-term relationship outcomes. A groundbreaking 2019 study in The Journal of Marriage and Family, conducted by Dr. Kate McClintock of Harvard University, found that LDR couples were just as likely to remain committed and satisfied as their geographically-close counterparts. McClintock and her colleagues followed hundreds of couples over several years and discovered that, despite physical separation, long-distance couples reported the same levels of happiness, emotional support, and relationship satisfaction as couples living in close proximity.

A similar study conducted by Princeton University in 2020 reinforced this conclusion. Researchers examined 1,000 couples, half of whom lived together and half of whom were in long-distance relationships, and found no significant difference in breakup rates between the two groups. The key takeaway: the commitment and emotional resilience of LDR partners are often just as strong as those in more traditional relationships.

Reframing Distance: Intentionality Over Proximity

If distance doesn’t detract from the strength of a relationship, it might actually provide an opportunity for couples to connect more intentionally. The separation forces both partners to prioritize their time together, whether it’s through late-night video calls, thoughtful text messages, or even just taking the time to share details of their day that might be overlooked in everyday life.

Dr. McClintock’s research also revealed that long-distance couples are more likely to develop shared goals and invest in their relationship’s future, likely because of the need to overcome the physical divide. When you’re not constantly distracted by the proximity of your partner, you can focus on building emotional depth and mutual support.

Moreover, a 2021 study from Yale University explored the role of emotional regulation in long-distance relationships, finding that successful LDR couples tend to exhibit better emotional self-regulation, which leads to fewer conflicts and greater relationship longevity. This ability to manage one’s emotions independently and productively is often cultivated in long-distance relationships, where emotional closeness must be intentionally nurtured across a greater distance.

The Bottom Line: Distance Doesn’t Diminish Love

In the past, conventional wisdom might have led you to believe that distance was a major obstacle to love. But as modern research suggests, distance might actually enhance emotional intimacy, communication quality, and relationship satisfaction. It encourages partners to focus on meaningful interactions and to communicate in ways that strengthen rather than weaken the bond.

The evidence is clear: while physical proximity certainly offers its own advantages, long-distance relationships can be just as fulfilling, if not more so, than those built on the foundation of everyday proximity. Whether you’re separated by a few cities or a few continents, the distance doesn’t necessarily make things harder—it can make love stronger, more intentional, and more rewarding. So, if you find yourself in a long-distance relationship or considering one, don’t let the miles stand in the way of what could become a lifelong connection.