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Look for promising signs instead of counting the number of dates
If you’re wondering how to get him to commit, you’re asking the wrong question. The right man for you—an individual who is ready for a serious relationship—will show you that he is worthy of your time and affection.
I firmly believe you need to see some promising signs before making your relationship official. So, under this theory, the actual number of dates doesn’t matter.
Instead, look for signs that the individual you are spending considerable time with is showing you that he’s a good person and making you feel like the beautiful, intelligent woman you are.
Here are a few signs that the person you’re dating could be worthy of making your relationship official:
Can you rely on him for anything?
Being able to rely on your partner for support is a big part of a sustainable relationship, and he will want to show you that he can handle one.
The wrong guy will duck out and run when times get tough or very stressful. The right guy who might be worth getting serious with and sticks by your side through thick and thin.
While he might be stressed when life throws curveballs, he knows nothing is perfect, and things can be messy. He’s in this incredible journey called life with you no matter what.
Does he make you feel good about yourself?
Your man wants you to feel your best. He gives you affirmations about his feelings and isn’t afraid to express himself verbally. When you are around him, you feel good about yourself. He lifts you and makes you shine more than not.
Compared to other relationships you’ve had or men you’ve encountered, this individual brings fun to your life. You are better with him.
Does he make you feel safe?
When a man is seriously interested, he wants to make you feel safe—physically and emotionally.
In large crowds, he will help navigate you. If someone appears aggressive, your man is on alert. He’s an extra pair of eyes and ears, prioritizing your physical well-being.
If you have considered this framework and can confidently say yes to most, or ideally all of them, this strongly indicates that you’re ready to elevate your relationship to the next level.
Have the talk and be very clear about what you want out of a relationship and ensure you’re actively listening to his needs and wants. Once you have “the talk,” go exclusive and enjoy life in technicolor!