UpJourney’s Article Written by The Editors, 60+ Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Man features contributions from Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating (Visit UpJourney to view the full article)
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“ There is nothing more frustrating than heading towards a serious, monogamous relationship only to hear your could-be-significant-other say, “I just don’t think I’m ready to commit.”
Save yourself time, energy, and heartache by choosing men who want—not be convinced to want—a longer-term relationship and are emotionally available.
My top three signs he is emotionally unavailable:
1. He is not intentional
An emotionally unavailable man does not think about doing things and activities together. There are no actual plans in the works to see you. He invites you to hang out super casually, where he might mention that you should “drop by” his weekend BBQ.
An emotionally available man makes commitments, asks you out, and figures out a time based on your schedule. You’ll also notice that dates with an emotionally available man are somewhat tailored to your preferences.
Emotionally available men want to share great moments with you—and that starts with thoughtful planning.
2. He’s not reliable
If he is not showing up for you, this is a big sign that he is not emotionally available.
Being able to rely on your partner for support is a big part of a sustainable relationship, and he will want to show you that he can handle one.
It’s easy to feel infatuated when everything is going well, but does he have staying power when things get a little, hmmm, complicated?
How did he react when you had a blow-up at work?
Was he available when you were sick with a nasty cold?
If he always shows up for you, he’s showing that he’s worth the emotional investment.
3. He’s not great with communication
Emotionally unavailable men can make it difficult for you to understand how they feel about you.
They are not interested in learning about you beyond the surface and are certainly not willing to put in the work in terms of communication.
An emotionally available man can be straightforward about his feelings for you. He is attentive to the things that are important to you and is generally a good communicator.
If you are dating someone with checks any of these signs that a man is not emotionally available, I encourage you to re-evaluate where you’re at and if your needs are being met.
If you checked more than one of these signs, chances are you might need to muster up the courage to move on to a man who can invest in a healthy and balanced relationship with you. ”