By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating
When I look back at my modest beginnings—matching friends locally who were completely exhausted and disenchanted with dating—to growing a world class matchmaking business for clients around the world, I realize I couldn’t do it all without a little help from the universe.
The law of attraction is the single most powerful law in the universe. It states that you will attract that which you give. So, for example, if you stay positive, excited, and appreciative, you will send out this positive energy and will, in return, attract the same type of energy.
We are all responsible for our own destiny and, with the Law of Attraction, we can encourage our goals and desires to manifest.
Where did the Law of Attraction come from? And how can it work for me?
Despite seeming like a new age trend, the Law of Attraction speaks to a philosophy that’s appeared in countless religious texts. You can find it in the Book of Proverbs, chapter 23, verse 7, which states “As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is”. Buddha also captures the sentiment when he said, “All that we are is a result of what we have thought.”
The phrase ‘Law of Attraction’ was formally coined in the late 1800’s by Helena Blavatsky in her book Isis Unveiled. Although studied by various authors in the 1900’s, the 20th Century marked a resurgence in popularity, with best selling book, The Power of Positive Thinking and Blockbuster film, The Secret. So how do I get the Law of Attraction to work for me? Read on for three simple steps to start attracting what you want!
1. Ask for what you want. Get specific.
Get intentional about how you communicate with the universe. To do this, start envisioning what your future will look like if you get what you want. Will you be doing the same things during the day? Who will you spend time with? What will you feel when you receive what you want?
The universe wants to know what you want. How it will come to be, however, may not be the path or timeline you expected.
Examples:
“I want to feel peace in my relationship–unconditionally loved by my partner.”
“I want to feel valued for my work contributions and proud of my work.”
“I want to build a home that allows me to host loved ones and feel self-expressed.”
2. Believe that you’ll get what you ask for, and then start moving towards the goal.
Maintaining positive energy about your goal and the certainty that you will accomplish it will propel you into action. Understand that forces beyond you are now working on your behalf. If it is love that you want, becoming more loving and generous will help you attract people who operate on this wave-length.
If “I want to feel peace in my relationship–unconditionally loved by my partner” is your intention, propel yourself into action by:
Remembering that you can choose the type of relationship you want.
Welcoming opportunities to meet people who may turn out to be just one you had in mind.
Allowing yourself to be present for your partner’s vulnerable side.
Showing your own vulnerabilities and appreciating your partner’s support.
3. Become the “vibrational match” for what you ask.
Maintaining positive energy is not always easy—especially after a string of bad dates. It takes practice and, many times, a new perspective. Having trouble focusing on the good, the happiness, or the wins in your life? Focus on gratitude. Several dates fell apart? The person you liked didn’t feel the same? Thank the universe for taking these people who aren’t the right fit out of your life quickly.
Examples:
After a bad date, try thinking: “This experience helped me realize that I need a partner who’s less arrogant. Meeting the ones who aren’t for me will make it that much easier to see the ones who are special.”
After a break up: “Though painful, I’m grateful that I won’t have to convince someone to be with me. I now have time to meet someone who sees a future together.”
Who else believes in the Law of Attraction?
Lady Gaga: “It happened around 5 years ago but it’s sort of like a mantra. You repeat it to yourself every day. “Music is my life. Music is my life. The fame is inside of me. I’m going to make a number one record and the number one hit.” And it’s not yet, it’s a lie. You’re saying a lie over and over and over again but then one day, the lie is true.”
Eckhart Tolle: “Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world. Whatever you think people are withholding from you – praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on – give it to them.”
Will Smith: “I believe that I can create whatever I want to create. If I can put my head on it right, study it, learn the patterns, and — it’s hard to put into words, it’s real metaphysical, esoteric nonsense, but I feel very strongly that we are who we choose to be.”